Discretions

When you attend a party does it hinge on weather or not there are singles there? People should be judged on their personality and the content of their character, you’d be surprised who you may like or dislike. But to base meeting new people on married or single could prevent you from meeting some of the most interesting people out there. Why not go into a meeting with a complete open mind and let things develop as they should with out putting the limits of single or married into the equation.

 When you decide to go to a meet and greet do you stay in your own little click type group or do you chance a new encounter by branching out into the crowd to see what life has to offer. Become a social butterfly and meet the people in  your group, you again may be surprised at what you may find.

I mean I love the beautiful people out there and the not so beautiful people. But to be so beautiful that no one can talk to you or get to know you, well that does not bode well as you end up looking like you think your too good for any one to talk to. Not everyone can be the Ken or Barbie type, but don’t judge people to harshly because they have a few extra pounds.

We have all seen the profiles of singles (male and female) where they look so good you could just eat them up …. but they are single… Then there are the married couples that look just as good that say no singles allowed. Not to mention the profiles that you look at them and think wow what was that person thinking to put up such a picture it does not look good nor does it put their best side forward. But remember sometimes the personality out weighs the physical condition of the person to a point. It’s always a good thing to give someone the benefit of the doubt because at some point in your life you may have needed the same.

With the end of the school year already here and vacation time approaching people are running out of time to spend having a good time. There are the many weddings and family gatherings that come at this time of the year, so when and where do you find the time to hang out with like minded friends?

Sometimes taking time (just an hour or two) to be with your significant other during a 3 to 4 day stretch is enough to rejunivnate your self. Be sure the spend some quiet quality time with the one you love. Maybe take the time to arrange a date with dinner and a movie followed up by giving each other a long involved message, this of course will lead up to all kinds of fun.

Get some friends and family involved by asking them to babysit or to set things up in the house just before your arrival. They can set out the dinner and light the candles just before exiting out the back door so as not to intrude on your evening. The surprise for your significant other will be well worth the trouble.

With friends see if you can arrange a night of fun by arranging a sleep over at someones house so the kids are out of the way. Then you can arrange  your own sleep over at your friends house. Be sure to bring games worth playing like strip poker and naked twister… now those are fun games.

Just one night in a couple of weeks will be worth the trouble to let your playmates know that yes you were thinking of them and wanting to spend some fun times together to alleviate some stress.

If you have some good ideas for getting together during this busy time of the year please feel free to comment so others can beniffit from your ideas.

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How do you contact someone after a swingers social? Well if you did not get their information when you were talking to them at the party then you could possibly get it from the web site that they signed up for the party on.

When on sls you join the group and you have access to their sls screen names and have the ability to leave them an email. But beyond joining other groups where peoples screen names are available then there really is no way to contact them. Just hoping they will show up to the next party is all you are left with.

When contacting a couple or a single that  you’ve met at a party but did not get their contact information it is important to be polite and remind them of where you have met. It is always nice to hear that someone had an interest in you so be just as polite when and if you feel the need to turn them down.

Remember everyone has feelings and it is unnecessary to hurt someones feelings when truning them down. But be firm in your words so that they understand that you have no interest and it should never appear that you will be contacting them in the future.

Please be sure to make it clear and you are not looking as if you are strining them along by saying things like yes it would be nice to have a drink and conversation with you, if you have not intention of ever doing so.

If you find that the person is not getting your point then put them on ignor or block. That should let them know loud and clear that you have no interest in them.

Good luck and happy hunting

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Now I’m sure not everyone wants their doctor asking why they want to have STD and HIV testing done, so here are some places you can go to have the test done.

 Planned Parenthood is a great place to go for testing. The Department of Health is another great place to have your test done and the last place to go (at least around here) STAP or The Southern Tier Aids Program.

I would sugest that you and your significant other make appointments together to have the testing done. Be sure to ask for copys of the paper work so that if someone should ask you if you’ve been tested you can show them. I carry my paper work with me like its my drivers license, that along with my Hepititis shot record.

For the safety of your self and everyone in  your circle of friends why not have it done for peace of mind.

These are my thoughts what are your’s

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So you’ve read the profile that says D & D free, and you assume that it’s true. So the question becomes how do you know? Can you trust the profile to be true?

 Does your profile say D & D free and can you prove it to someone if they should ask you when was the last time you were tested? Do you ask for proof when you meet a new couple or do you take their word for it that they are safe?

 If you think that when you go to your OBGYN that they are examining you for STD’s and HIV then your wrong. They are testing you for cancer cells with in the uterus. It is necessary for a woman to request that she be tested for STD’s and HIV or it does not happen.

 The Department of Health or Planned Parenthood is good places to get this kind of test done.  You should also have the Hepatitis shots done and properly recorded.

 With technology as great as it is today you can get a 30minute HIV test done with just a stick of the finger or a swab of the cheek. Then all you need to do is ask for a copy of the paper work so that you can show it to prospective couples of interest.

 Carrying around your copy of the health report is essential. If you have sex with multiple partners then its up to you to be sure to keep your own information up to date.

 Just imagine how much worry not only doing this not only for your self, but also for everyone involved will eliminate. Being tested once every 4 to 6 months should be more than enough depending on your level of sexual activity.

Should you have any questions or concerns please feel free to comment.

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