Archive for July, 2009

by BlkMasterV

I read a lot of regular vanilla blogs, like most everybody. But I noticed this interesting interview at one of my favorite blogs.

While the interviewer is vanilla, he decided to interview a literary erotica writer who focuses on BDSM and the alternative lifestyle. It reads like a pretty fair interview.

I didn’t want to copy the whole blog post, but I have taken a quote of the interview itself.

Michael Vass: For my readers that are unfamiliar with you please tell us a bit about Victoria Morris.

Victoria Morris: I grew up in a small town not too far from Binghamton and have two teenage children, one in college. I consider myself a research junkie, mostly in regards to American History and family genealogy and have been a practicing Pagan for over 20 years.

Michael Vass: How important was your education in helping you reach this point in your life? Was education something that was important growing up?

Victoria Morris: Well, you can’t be a writer if you don’t know how to read and write! I think the attitudes my parents had with me as a kid were more influential than the formal classroom education I got. I was far from a straight-A student, but I was always encouraged to do my best and to work hard at the thing or things I wanted to do the most. As long as I did that and was happy with it, my parents were proud and encouraging.

Michael Vass: Was writing something you always wanted to do? Did you study English in high school/college?

Victoria Morris: Always. In high school I majored in English as much as one can there. Afterwards I attended TC3 and took an illustration course. I also took a correspondence course in Children’s Literature.

My first goal as a budding author was to write and illustrate children’s books. In fact, my father faithfully saved the first children’s book I did that with when I was nine-years-old. Bill, The Worm Who Ran Away is a well-known piece of literature in my family.

Michael Vass: What is it that motivated you to become a writer?

Victoria Morris: For me, writing is like breathing – I can’t NOT do it. Write or die, that’s my motivation… life!

Michael Vass: What made you decide to take the publishing route you chose?

Victoria Morris: I worked on a history piece for a local group that I sold for $2 each. Those booklets were actually my first real source of writing income. After that, I decided my writing had some value and from then on, have not written for free other than a few Letters-To-The-Editor in local papers. I never considered any of the Self-Publishing companies out there. If I were any good at all, shouldn’t someone be paying me for it instead of the other way around?

Michael Vass: How have you found the private publishing process to be? Is it harder than you thought?

Victoria Morris: I think the hardest part was actually finding a publisher interested in my work, especially something as non-mainstream as BDSM-based erotica. Once I found them, it’s been incredibly easy. They are great people, very personable.

Michael Vass: How rewarding and difficult has the private publishing process been?

Victoria Morris: I’ve enjoyed working with my publisher right from the start. They even let me have a great deal of say in what I envision for the cover art, which is something very, very few writers get to do. I commissioned a private artist for the first two covers but was, sadly, unable to get him for the third. He is incredible!

Michael Vass: You have written 3 books so far, what is that experience like? What do you do to prepare?

Victoria Morris: Actually, I’ve written 9 novels, but only 4 have been published and only those four are erotica-based. The first drafts of almost all my novels were written in long hand in a steno pad. I don’t outline at all. I’m what is called an organic writer. I just go with the flow of whatever direction the characters take me. Some people find it funny when I say even I don’t know what’s going to happen next most of the time, but it’s true. Some of my characters get very cranky if I try to tell them what to do. That’s a good thing. It means they have a life and that’s what readers want.

Michael Vass: How long does it take to write a book? What gets you motivated to write?

Victoria Morris: Love In Chains took just about a year to write. That includes the final draft. That has been about the same pace for all my books, about a year. The plot and characters motivate me and the need to get out a good story and share it with others.

Michael Vass: How hard was it to write your first book? Did it get easier after that first book?

Victoria Morris: Every book is difficult in its own way. The second erotica, To Love, Honor & Disobey, was much harder to write than Love In Chains. The characters were more influenced by what was going on in the world beyond Greenbrier Plantation. The erotica is more than just erotica, it is historically correct erotica. I had to know what battles were going on where and how those things would influence what my characters could and could not do. At one point, Dr. Addams meets with Gen. Thomas Jackson. I had to make sure that would have been possible considering where Gen. Jackson was at that time in the War.

Michael Vass: Where do you get the inspiration for your characters, and what happens to them?

Victoria Morris: My characters come from little bits of myself, from my family, from my friends. I warn people that they may just find themselves in one of my books one way or another and some of them already have.

You’d think I’d have more control over the plot than I actually do. As an organic writer my happiest moments are when I have no idea what’s going to happen and am writing as fast as I can to keep up with the action in my head. Sit down and watch a movie you’ve never seen before and start writing what you see and the dialogue as you go. That’s a little bit what it’s like when I’m in The Zone.

Michael Vass: What inspired the time period that your stories take place in?

Victoria Morris: As I mentioned earlier, I’m a research junkie and have always been interested in the Victorian era, specifically the U.S. Civil War time period. I had attended several re-enactments prior to getting involved in it myself as a re-enactor. Contrary to what people might think, the Victorians were hardly prudes, they just kept all their sexuality hidden and secret. What better time period to set a BDSM novel in? Secret sexual practices abounded back then. I could pretty much make up anything I wanted!

Michael Vass: Has the subjects of your books made it harder to distribute your books?

Victoria Morris: Definitely. Unlike my other writer friends I can’t have a book signing at the local Mall or at any of the larger, better known bookstores. And because of the small size of my publisher, they are really unable to afford going through the more popular places online.

Michael Vass: The subject you write about is taboo for some people, what brought you to write about that?

Victoria Morris: Long before chat rooms, there was (and still is) a place called LambdaMOO. It was created by a bunch of Dungeon & Dragons people who wanted to be able to interact with more people. It allows you to create characters, build various rooms and objects and allows you to interact in real time with other people all purely in text format.

My first character there was Lady Vivianne, a vampire Mistress. It was a game and one I was told I played very well. I found that I was damn good at creating a sexual, sensual and believable atmosphere with my fellow players and that kind of got me thinking about writing an erotic novel.

Michael Vass: Are you actually involved in the alternative lifestyle or do you just write about it?

Victoria Morris: I have been actively involved in the Lifestyle for about 10 years now, but I have not done ALL of the things that are described in the books. That’s what research is for. Sometimes the scenes in the books are scenes I’ve watched taking place right before me. Others were simply suggested to me or were things I read about.

Michael Vass: At what point did you learn about the alternative lifestyle? What drew you to it?

Victoria Morris: I didn’t really understand it until about fifteen years ago when I started watching and participating in online scenes at the aforementioned LambdaMOO. I think what drew me in was the sense of power and control I felt within myself.

I didn’t have that in my own life at the time. I wanted to be able to have more say in things than what I felt I did. Becoming an online vampire Mistress was very empowering. Through that and other characters I had, I learned what worked and didn’t work for me as well as what I did and didn’t want in a real relationship.

Michael Vass: Have you ever had family and friends read your books? How did they react?

Victoria Morris: Yes, I have had family and friends read my books. My cousin has been my first Reader for years. My mother has copies of all my books, too. She’s read Love In Chains and admits she was a little scared at first. Once she got into it though, the sexual stuff really didn’t bother her so much because there was such a strong plot going on, too.

The few friends that have read the first book maybe don’t quite get it as far as the kink is concerned, but they have been supportive even as they eyed me rather warily.

Michael Vass: Often writers include a bit about themselves in their stories, is there any specific parts of you in these stories?

Victoria Morris: Lucy, the main female lead, is very much into Spiritualism and the occult, though she passes herself off as a devout Episcopalian. That combination comes from my grandmothers.

One was Episcopalian and I was even baptized as such. The other was very interested in Spiritualism, so much so that for my 13th birthday she bought for and taught me how to use a Ouija board.

Mistress Vivianne is a re-creation of the first LambaMOO character I had. The first Vivianne was anything but nice. She was full of rage and man-hate. I was going through some difficult times in my life and used her to vent safely.

Michael Vass: Is it difficult to be in the alternative lifestyle? Does it interfere with your daily life?

Victoria Morris: Sometimes the general public bases too much of their opinions of people on what we do in the bedroom. That’s really unfair. In some ways it does interfere with my daily life. As I have kids, I have to be extremely vigilant in keeping my writing and research materials secure. I can’t leave manuscripts just lying around. I can’t even put copies of my books on my own bookshelf. Being a writer is such a vital part of who I am, and to have to hide that from them on some level really nags at me.

Michael Vass: Some readers will likely want to know if you believe the alternative lifestyle restricts you as a woman? Does it hold you back in your career or life choices?

Victoria Morris: I don’t think it holds me back as a woman, so much as being able to be open and honest with everyone about who I am as a person. It’s a bit restraining (no pun intended) to have to keep such an important part of myself tucked away from prying and judgmental eyes.

So far, being exposed to and participating in the Lifestyle has only enhanced my career as a writer and in doing that has encouraged me to expand and improve on my writing in other genres.

Michael Vass: Considering that you focus on the alternative lifestyle in your book, have you had any positive or negative feedback from readers?

Victoria Morris: All the reviews I’ve seen have been very positive, as has been the feedback I’ve gotten from people in person. They seem genuinely grateful that what I’m writing is not just all sex, sex, sex, but that my characters come across as real people.

Michael Vass: For those interested in writing their own books, what might you suggest?

Victoria Morris: Do it because you love to do it, not because you think you’ll be the next Ernest Hemmingway or Patricia Cornwall. Chances are very high you won’t be.

Write what you know. If you don’t know about a specific thing you want incorporated, don’t fake it – do the research!

Don’t be afraid to let others read your stuff. It’s the only way you’ll know how well, or how crappy, you are. A good Reader is a godsend. They will be 100% honest with you just like a real editor will be. You need to be able to take that sort of blunt honesty right from the start so get used to it.

Michael Vass: I always like to ask anyone I interview a question about the causes and organizations that they believe in, if any. Is there a cause or organization you support and would like to mention?

Victoria Morris: I have been a member of The National Trust for Historic Preservation since 1995. I’m a big advocate for preserving and remembering where we come from, be that public building, a battlefield, a private home, a covered bridge or personal papers and documents.

Every single one of us comes from somewhere. I think it’s enormously vital to remember where that place is and who those people were.

Michael Vass: Are you working on another book now?

Victoria Morris: I’m always working on at least one book. Without going into too many details, the one that is the furthest along centers around a colony of vampires residing in contemporary West Virginia.

I’ve personally had enough of the saccharine sweet vampires we’ve had stuffed down our throats lately. I’ve always found vampires to be incredibly powerful, sexy creatures, but not necessarily in a romantic way. If you watch how Christopher Lee portrays Count Dracula in the Hammer films, you’ll see what I mean. He could be sexy as hell, but he wasn’t nice about it.

Michael Vass: Where can those interested learn more about your books, and purchase them.

Victoria Morris: The very best place to purchase is directly from the publisher at www.pinkflamingo.com. From there you can do an author search under my name and it will bring up all my titles. Everything is available on eBook, too.

Michael Vass: What would you recommend for those interested in learning more about the lifestyle?

Victoria Morris: Research!! This means being able to ask discrete questions at your local adult toy or bookstore. They are in the erotic business and just may know if there are any groups in your area. There are groups online like alt.com but I tend to steer away from those just because people can be so fake behind a computer screen. It’s better and safer to meet new people in a large, public setting. Don’t be afraid to ask questions, lots and lots of questions.

Now I’m interested in reading the books to see what it’s all about.

By BlkMasterV

Recently I was having a discussion with friends in the BDSM lifestyle (a Domme and a sub) about the similarities between the life and the military. This was not the first time I had had such a discussion, though this time I had a breakthrough. Let me share that with you.

In the military, basic training is one of the most direct and obvious times that mirrors living the BDSM life. Many do not see this, but it is a 24/7 life that is apparent for those of us that know.

In basic training the recruits start off as nothing. They are undisciplined, raw, and unfocused. They have a goal ultimately of becoming more than what they are starting as but nothing else.

The Drill Instructors then have the task of breaking down the recruits to even less than what they think they can go. They clear all other thoughts and questions from the minds of the recruit. It is only after they have completely broken all the barriers, resistance and doubt that the recruits are then truly ready to be reshaped into a stronger and better form.

By the time all is said and done, the recruit becomes a sharp and efficient tool of the military. They serve their command structure with 110% willingness and efficiency. There is nothing that cannot be asked of them, nor anything they will not do. And they will serve their purpose with absolute confidence and commitment.

In BDSM we see much of the same thing. A sub commits to be trained by the Master. The Master must overcome all the mental blocks and questions that perhaps a whole lifetime has been built upon. The sub gives their trust and desire to become a better tool of the Master, with the Master obligated to ensure that the trust and desire is both earned and honed to be goals they have set forth.

The Master breaks down the sub, via sessions and other training, bring the core to the surface. And then they rebuild that sub to be the best at what they do. To provide service without question or doubt. To be completely confident in the commands given and sure that their service is appreciated and something to be proud of.

While the stakes are not the same, the core belief is. A soldier is willing to give their life because they are told to do so with the belief that this will serve a greater purpose even if they do not know what that is. A sub gives their trust, mind and body because they know that their service serves a purpose, enriching the Master and improving the lives of both.

Both are serious situations. A Master like a Drill Instructor must have complete commitment and always provide a direction to the sub. A Master must be clear in their directions and objectives. A Master must guide the sub, so that they will always be confident in their actions.

A Master must never be cavalier in their actions regarding the sub. They hold their lives in their hands, and must regard that life with the utmost concern. They must always consider the needs of the sub, and the means by which to improve that sub. It is through this that they thus improve themselves and excel in their Dominance and leadership.

When a Master provides the proper training and guidance, the sub shines like a polished armor. They are as sharp and precise in their actions as the best sword. They are an instrument of immense power and grace. Both the sub and the Master are looked upon as worthy of emulating. Such is the power of both.

Thus BDSM is very similar to the military. The final products are impressive at a glance, and intimidating to those not familiar with the lifestyle chosen. Not everyone can make such a commitment. But for those that do, the rewards are outstanding.

I look forward to hearing the thoughts of others on this. Both Dom’s and sub’s, do you also agree? Is this something you have used in your training, or being trained?

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